Episode 68
The Workaholic Trap: How Chasing Success Made Me Feel Nothing
Feeling stuck in your "What am I doing with my life?" era? This is the episode for anyone who has checked all the boxes but still feels hollow inside. Book a free Career Clarity call to start mapping out your soul-aligned career path → www.careerbloomcoaching.com/consultation
In this vulnerable and deep episode of Career Clarity Unlocked, host and certified career coach Theresa White tackles the quiet crisis of paper success vs. soul success.
Theresa explores the two paths we face when that internal ache begins: numbing (through overworking, social media, or perfectionism) or facing reality (embracing discomfort as a compass). Using a powerful client story, she reveals the emotional, relational, professional, and spiritual costs of numbing, the slow drain that robs us of joy, creativity, and true connection.
This episode offers a compassionate guide to spotting your own numbing patterns and provides practical, courageous steps for shifting from feeling flat to feeling truly alive.
This is the episode for you if:
✔️ You suspect your workaholic drive or busyness is actually a form of escape
✔️ You've been successful on paper, but constantly feel flat, hollow, or unfulfilled
✔️ You want to learn how to use the Sunday night dread as your inner compass
✔️ You are tired of interview anxiety and want to project calm confidence
✔️ You know the phrase "I'm fine" is a lie you're constantly telling yourself
✔️ You need courage to admit you're burnt out, even though everyone thinks you have it all together
⏱ Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: When Success Feels Empty
01:03 The Crossroad: Numbing vs. Facing Reality
03:21 Exploring the Paths: Numbing and Its Costs
03:36 Client Story: Sarah's Struggle with Numbing
29:55 The Emotional and Relational Costs of Numbing
33:07 The Professional and Physical Costs of Numbing
36:30 The Spiritual Cost: Losing Purpose and Joy
37:52 Recognizing the Subtle Signs of Disconnection
38:23 Awareness and Recognizing Patterns
39:08 Facing Reality and Embracing Discomfort
40:45 Listening to Your Inner Signals
41:44 The Journey from Numbing to Aliveness
42:28 The Fear of Vulnerability and Emotional Flooding
45:39 Practical Steps to Face Reality
49:51 The Non-Linear Path to Self-Rediscovery
52:59 Small Acts of Authenticity and Change
58:00 Rebuilding Life Around Your Truth
01:04:46 Sarah's Transformation and Practical Habits
01:08:42 The Power of Small, Consistent Changes
01:11:07 Invitation to Begin Your Journey
01:16:00 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Transcript
Unlock. We're all about those light bulb moments. I'm talking to people who are still trying to figure out what they're meant to do, coaching them life to reach that magical, yes, this is it moment, and we'll also hear from those who've already found their dream careers and figure out exactly how they did it.
Whether you are looking for inspiration or actionable advice on finding a career you love, I've got you covered time to unlock some career clarity. Let's dive in.
we are gonna go deep again. [:And then we end up laying in bed at night and wondering. Why doesn't this feel better? Why doesn't this feel like success? And yes, we tell ourselves it's the stress or the season we're in, or maybe they just need a vacation or maybe a better pillow or a new planner or a third glass of wine and we can numb it for a while.
s to face reality. The other [:Oh, I love doing that. I can just work another six hours and that is taking my mind off the big questions in my life. I wonder if that sounds familiar for you. And over the years, I have learned that there also is another path which is actually facing reality.
trying to tell me something [:And not just more stuff, but more aliveness. And today's episode is going to be an invitation not to fix everything or burn it all down, but an invitation to be more honest with ourselves and being honest about the moments we choose numbing or we're facing the truth, and also being honest about what it costs us in our energy, in our relationship, in our creativity, in our sense of self.
hy we numb. And this isn't a [:It's very protective. And I'm gonna share with you a story from one of my clients. Her name was Sarah, who is a senior executive who had the perfect resume. Her LinkedIn looks great, but she felt completely disconnected. On the inside, we're gonna walk with her through the cost of numbing, emotionally, physically, professionally, relationally and spiritually.
And we're gonna learn how we can reframe our discomfort as our compass. And then I'm gonna walk you through what it actually looks like to begin facing reality. One small, very messy, but also courageous step at a time. And this episode is not going to be about blaming, but it is about naming, naming that ache we might be feeling, naming the ways we avoid feeling it, and naming the possibility that lays on the other side of it.
radox is what inspired me to [:And I'm right in the middle of those two with you. So if you're listening in to this episode on your commute or with your earbuds in while you're making lunch, or maybe out on a walk or a run, and you're thinking, yes, um, I think this is me too. Let's just take a deep breath together. Yes, we are all at a crossroad in our life, but we are not doing this alone.
ments, the big burnout where [:Let that answer rise without judging it. And my hope for you is that by the end of this episode and our time together today, you'll know how to recognize your own numbing patterns in the cost they carry with them.
What it really means to sit with what's real. Oh my god. Not my favorite thing, but we're gonna work through it together and it's not gonna be as scary as it sounds. We're gonna talk about how we can begin to listen to our inner compass, even if it's been on mute for a long time. And then we're gonna talk about small experiments that can lead to big shifts.
h, and the only coach on the [:In just 30 days, I've helped over 600 women find careers that feel like pinch me. I'm getting paid to do this, and my clients often call my sessions epiphanies and an answer to questions they've been asking for years. And if you've been watching me on video, you see that I have a slightly different setup today.
I just really felt like sitting in my comfy chair for this episode. Plus you get to see my beautiful view, which is right my mango tree out this window. Um, so I thought I will share this view and my comfy chair with you for this episode today.
Now, let's start right at that moment when we feel that internal ache, that quiet something is off. This can't be it. But when fulfillment is missing, but everything looks fine on the outside, we're often at a fork in a road. Do we face reality and say, yep, something is off.
this isn't it. Or do we keep [:That is the path of least resistance, at least at first. That's where we avoid feeling, avoid dealing with the big question and avoid taking any risks. So it feels much safer in the here and now. And there are so many different ways that can look like we can have a glass of wine. We overcommitted work, scroll social media, and emotionally all of that feels safe.
s come with a long-term cost [:And it's also so much less productive on paper. I like to be efficient and I like to be protective. I don't like just just to sit there to feel, but that path requires stillness. It requires being so honest with ourselves and it means asking questions that we don't have an answer to yet.
What is it that's missing? Why doesn't that feel good anymore? What do I really want? And it's so hard to sit with those questions and not have the answer. So facing reality does feel riskier in the short term, but there's a lot of research that shows it is the path that brings us to more alignment, to more a aliveness and to more meaning.
f energy to keep performing. [:And I wanna honor that. This is real courage, but it's also taking a lot of our energy out of us and might not be sustainable forever. Facing reality is a long-term courage. It's so much slower, and the stakes of courage are much higher. It looks like saying I'm not okay, and saying that out loud, admitting that something isn't working, even if others envy the life that we might be having, saying that we are feeling discomfort instead of numbing it and sitting in the unknown without rushing to fix it.
g I don't like to do at all. [:When we numb the dark. We also numb the light. And that means that when we numb the pain or the discomfort, we are also numbing joy and creativity and connection. And when I say numbing, I don't mean substances. I mean our nervous system responds to avoiding discomfort. And that makes a lot of sense where most of us are really good at it and we learned that for a reason.
is feeling the ache when we [:So if you've ever found yourself a scrolling Instagram and suddenly an hour is gone or you feel a Sunday night scaries, but you shove it all away by watching your favorite show and eating the best snacks, uh, chocolate for me. Or you catch yourself saying, I'm just tired. But deep down, you know, it's actually more than that.
Those are the fork in the roads moments I'm talking about, and the first step is to just notice them one at a time. And then we can choose even just for a moment if we want to go on that different path. And feeling discomfort isn't a punishment, it's actually information. And that reframe helped me a lot to deal with discomfort.
ing wrong or that we are not [:And when we numb the discomfort, and this is, you can picture it as taking the smoker alarm off the wall, and I don't know if this is just me, but you try to change the battery and whatever it, you can stop it. If it goes off by accident, nothing seems to be working. You have to disconnect the cables, take out the batteries, and I've had times where I just buried it under like 20 blankets, hoping that eventually it'll stop.
ity starts. And there are so [:'cause we might think like, yeah, this is just how adulthood feels. It's not that bad. Could be much worse. Or I should be grateful, but everyone else is getting laid off. I still have a job. What more do I want? And those thoughts keep us stuck at this fork looping and looping and looping. And the first step is to name that fork.
that feels totally normal or [:So let's start with the very obvious numbing. Those are the classic escape behaviors and the ones we all know to use to avoid discomfort. That is scrolling on our phones, the wine or whiskey or the wheat that takes off the edge. Oh, that's our shopping cart full of things that we don't really need. But yes, we really need to hit that purchase button.
So think about it as social media, food substances, tv, online shopping, spirals, all of that. And by no means does this mean you can never enjoy a glass of wine or get a new pair of shoes? No, you are more than welcome to keep doing this. But the difference is, is are you making this choice to enjoy it?
socially celebrated numbing, [:We are delivering in record time, but it's often a cover for fear of slowing down. And I'm really good at the next one too. Perfectionism. If I can just get this right, I won't have to feel inadequate. I don't have to feel not worthy or not enough. And this can become a shield against vulnerability for us.
ess, like you're doing well. [:And again, it doesn't, I'm not saying by any means that you should never take care of others or that you shouldn't turn in your work in perfect condition. Those are all great qualities, but again, it is about paying attention of why we do this. Why do we overwork? Why do we have this drive for perfectionism?
Why do we feel like we have to take care of everyone? And then there's another layer, which is more the invisible numbing, and they don't necessarily look like numbing on the outside, but they do serve the same purpose. One of them is busyness. Again, really good at that. It's packing your calendar so full that there's just simply no space to feel anything.
a disaster. The house is on [:They feel quite normal, but over time they all quietly flatten our experience of life, of experiencing being alive. I wanna again mention that numbing is protective. It's not because something's wrong with us or we're not strong enough to face our emotion. No, it's simply a protective move.
And this is also not about calling yourself out of like, Hey Theresa, you're numbing again. It's more about calling yourself in because our nervous system is trying to keep us safe. It's doing these things so that we can stay safe. And when things feel too overwhelming, your body says, come on, let's not deal with this right now.
one more real and then we're [:So if you see yourself in these patterns, of course you do. You are human, and I want us all to have so much compassion and curiosity for why we do this.
Now, let me tell you more about Sarah's story. And by the way, Sarah is not her real name to protect her privacy, but this is her real story. What does it look like? The usual busy family life. Her alarm goes off at five 30 before she even gets out of bed. She checks her emails, checks her phone, and that already fills her body with anxiety before she even gets out of bed.
hing wrong with her workout, [:She's already totally exhausted. And the numbing forms we see here is the overscheduling, the anxiety driven productivity, and ignoring physical signals. Work starts. She has about eight hours of back-to-back meetings, no time for lunch, bathroom breaks, or even to breathe. She is someone who tends to say yes to everything because she really doesn't wanna disappoint anyone else. She just keeps saying yes, but at the same time, she's wondering like, does this really matter? But instead of really dealing with this question, she just buries it under more work and more deliverables.
people see her as a machine. [:She is performing and doing what's expected of her, but she isn't 100% there feeling the connection. She tends to avoid intimacy because she's just simply too tired to meaningfully engage. And she uses social media, pretend presence and emotional distancing as numbing strategies. Once the kids are in bed, the house is quiet.
anything that brings silence [:I can give you a whole list of things if you want some more ideas. I'm really good at this. But what's happening under niece Ris day? Yes. From the outside, she is crushing it. She has a senior VP title. She makes great money. She drives a beautiful car. She has a perfect family. If you look at her Christmas cards, this is the life you want.
She has the big house, she has the Peloton bike. She takes a beautiful vacation once a year. The life you all want, right? But on the inside, she feels flat, disconnected, hollow, super tired and exhausted all the time. Even if she does sleep in on the weekend or get a day of rest, and she feels guilty because this is what she was striving for.
t as long as she numbs those [:now, now you have a better understanding of what numbing looks like, what it is that I'm talking about. Now let's think about what happens to our joy, our body, our relationships, our purpose, when we live like that for years.
What is the cost of this?
But before we start talking about the cost of numbing, I invite you to ask yourself, where does numbing show up in your life? What are you trying to justify with? This is just how life is. I just have to deal with it. And are you numbing strategies restoring you or actually distracting you?
ith scrolling on our phones. [:So that's the question we wanna ask ourselves. And it's just about noticing, not shaming ourselves, . But we need to really see this clearly in order to make different choices or to even have a choice to do something different if we desire to do so.
umb, the higher the price is.[:So let's not talk about what it really costs us when we choose numbing over facing our reality. One, there's the emotional cost, flatness, shame loops, loss of authenticity. So with the flatness, we stop feeling the highs along with the lows. Joy just doesn't land the way it used to. And we tell ourselves, well, this is just once you're over 40, this is just how it's, and everything feels a little muted.
It feels like life is happening behind a screen. Ooh, in the shame loop. Be numb. We feel guilty for numbing. Be numb again to escape. The guilt and the shame spiral keeps us stuck and silent and stuck and silent. And then we lose some of who we are.
We forget what we actually feel, want or need, and we become who we think we're supposed to be. And instead of living, we are performing
For Sarah, she [: eper depth in a relationship [:And in Sarah's life. Yes, she was doing all the things that were expected of her. And even more at dinner, she is smiling, she's asking questions, she's engaging with her kids, but she's aware that somehow she isn't really feeling it. And now she's started to cancel dinner with friends because she's too busy.
But underneath it, she's afraid to actually be seen as struggling and to admit that she isn't living the life that everyone thinks she is. , And then there's the professional cost. You keep getting praised for being so dedicated for being the hardest worker on the team for it always going above and beyond, but inside you're just completely depleted.
s point you're not even sure [:And then we often feel stagnant because don't even have the energy to take risks. And that cost is yes, it's high performance and low fulfillment. And remember Sarah, she had the VP title. She was making a great bonus.
nd she feels so snap because [:And she worked so hard to get to where she's now that walking away doesn't seem like an option.
And of course, there's the physical cost because the body keeps the score. Numbing doesn't just impact our mind. It does wear our body down over time. Chronic migraines, gut issues, tension in our shoulders, jaw, chest insomnia, disturbed sleep fatigue that are all signs of our nervous system constantly being on and not having space to discharge or to repair.
ne to wind down and a cup of [:And the final cost that we are dealing with is feeling hollow. That loss of purpose and that question of is this all there is? And that cost is the quietest, but probably the one that haunts us the most.
It is what prevents us from feeling connected to anything deeper. It is the loss of the sense of why. Why we are doing what we're doing. It's when life feels mechanical. And you can't just ask yourself like, what's the point? Is this really all there is? And what happened to the version of me that used to dream big?
for Sarah. That meant the Sunday night dread, the missing excitement about the week ahead. It's just, yes, I can get through it. I'll endure it.
and adding up all that cost [:We forget what we love, and we forget what it feels to be fully alive. And please don't blame yourself if you see any of this in yourself. This is about awareness. Once we start recognizing this in ourselves, we can start to recognize the patterns.
And we might be realizing that we are much more surviving than thriving, and that we are protecting ourselves from feeling the really big feelings and that we are coping with a system that often demands our disconnection. But maybe you also realize that you're ready for something different, something more real, and something more alive.
at are we gonna do about it? [:I am inviting you to think about the discomfort that a lot of our emotions bring as a compass instead of a punishment. So when we feel this pit in our stomach feeling that really doesn't feel good, or the Sunday night dread,
and that whisper telling us like, Hey, this isn't it. I had that whisper sitting on my shoulder for about eight years of my life. And what if you think about this not as a punishment of like, oh my God, why are you their voice? Can you just go away? But what if we turn towards it? Ask it to guide us. What if that ache that we are feeling is actually a really important secret signal, A clue from your soul, or a signal from your nervous system?
We need to change something. [:The more you tell it to go away, the louder it gets. So what if instead of telling this feeling to go away, I don't wanna deal with you. If you were to ask it, what is this feeling trying to tell me? Where am I living out of sync with my values? And what wants to change in me. That is what I mean by facing reality.
Simply tuning in and telling the truth.
is packed and facing reality [:But that is a loss of control that can feel terrifying, can feel like stepping off a cliff for many people. And a lot of us also fear emotional flooding. Like if I allow myself to actually feel it, it'll never stop. If I lean into feeling that Sunday night scaries or the anxiety, it will swallow me alive.
But what I've learned by trying to sit with my emotions, they're actually visitors passing through us. They rise, they peak, they fall. But as long as we never let ourselves feel them, they are just building up and building up and building up, and of course be fear, shame and judgment. What will other people think of me that makes no sense to throw away my successful career?
eally actually not happy and [:It feels like risking the image that we've worked so hard to maintain and the cultural conditioning that teaches us productivity. Way more important than presence, hustle. Way more important than honesty, appearance, way more important than alignment. And we grow up . Being taught.
Don't cry, be grateful. Push through, keep smiling and facing our truth. Might mean that we have to break these generational and cultural patterns.
I have no idea. Or if I say [:How do I change my schedule is a full, I don't even have time to think about what I wanna change. It feels like once we open Pandora's Box, it might just overwhelm us. But the fear of the truth turns out to often be much bigger than the truth itself.
Yes, facing these big feelings and being vulnerable feels uncertain, raw, risky. But over time you might start to feel real joy again. You might start to feel connection again. You might trust yourself more, and maybe you're gonna reclaim your values, your voice and your vision.
your Sunday night dread and [:Instead of distracting ourselves, just sitting still for a moment. And maybe it is saying no, setting a boundary, saying no to one meeting to create a little bit of breathing space on your calendar. And my favorite one is journaling about the question, what am I pretending not to know? Yes, I know, I know.
What is? What are you pretending not to know?
nproductive in Sarah's case. [:I look successful. Everyone thinks I have the life of my dreams, but I honestly feel totally disconnected and I don't know what I'm go, what I can do about it, but I need help figuring it out.
trategies started to soften. [:I hope you can see this as an invitation, that the feelings you fear most are actually the doorway to joy and to connection and to more meaning. And being vulnerable and facing those big fears is not the risk, but disconnection is. And the cost of seeing numb is your one precious life.
So now that you know. Discomfort is not a threat, but a compass to lean into. Now let's talk about that really messy, powerful, very human journey from numb to a aliveness step by step. What does this actually look like?
making it through the week. [:It is a very human journey. It unfolds in stages. Mine looks more like looping, revisiting, spiraling upward, and there is no straight ahead. So let's walk through this task together. What does this look like step by step? Step one, we already started talking about that. It's the moment that ache becomes unbearable.
'cause in the beginning it's quiet, but the more we push it away, the louder it becomes. And at some point, numbing, it doesn't work like it used to. There is something inside of you that says, I can't keep living like this. For Sarah, it was actually the moment when she got a really glowing performance review and was invited to speak at a conference.
bout early on in her career, [:It is taking that mask off that we're wearing, saying like, this life doesn't fit me anymore. Yeah, I feel like I'm performing my way through the day. And saying those things out loud is scary in the beginning, but is the first step to no longer pretending. It is the first step to taking off the mask. We often wear every day.
ut. I'm not just tired and I [:And for the first time she's like, I have no clue what I'm doing. I know I don't wanna keep doing this, but I don't know what else.
And it was the first time she was the one acknowledging that, Hey, I don't have an answer. And the big piece here is she doesn't have to fix it. Her husband doesn't have to fix it. This step is just naming it, taking off the mask, stop pretending and saying what really is the next step is the hardest one, but also the most transformational one, instead of reaching for our usual numbing habits.
anger, the shame, the guilt, [:And you build tolerance for truth and you realize I can't survive feeling highly recommend working with a therapist through this. I don't think I would've been able to get to this point without my most amazing therapist, in Sarah's example, what she, what shifted in her routine and that was so beautiful.
minute solo [:Because the efficient part of her is like, Hey, I could run. So I get a workout in that makes me feel like what I'm supposed to be doing and I can listen to a podcast at the same time, which is even more efficient. So she had to learn to be like, okay, I'm gonna walk. I'm gonna not distract myself.
I'm just gonna breathe and feel and hear the silence. And there were mornings that she cried and she just walked, but she started hearing herself again.
you know your body needs to [:Or being really honest with someone about how you're really doing, and that might lead to a vulnerability hangover, which if you've been in therapy, you probably experienced where, oh my God, did I say too much? Did I reel too much of what's really going inside of me?
But at the same time, you are also gonna feel relief because you showed it up as who you are and not as the version everyone expects you to be or the version you think you should be.
In Sarah's case, she told her manager that she needed to renegotiate her workload. She needed to create space on her calendar. She was so scared to do it, but it actually worked out. And the space that she created on her schedule. She then used some of it, not all of it, but some of it, to mentor some of the junior members on her team.
ade her come so alive again. [:It's when energy starts to come up again and you start choosing more of what makes you light up and less of what drains you. And you see these little pieces of life returning inside of you.
hat's real and true for you, [:This doesn't always mean quitting everything and moving to a cabin in the Swiss Alps, sometimes it's just very small acts, but consistent acts of being true and authentic to who you are. Other times it's bolder, courageous steps.
Either way, it is when your outer life starts to more and more reflect your inner clarity. Through working with me as her coach. Sarah transitioned into a new role that allowed her to design leadership programs for women.
was still busy working life [:If you want to discover more about where you are in your own journey, I've compiled journaling prompts for you, and you can download that worksheet on career bloom coaching.com/episode six eight. And those questions are gonna be really important ones to really reflect on and journal about.
When I feel uncomfortable, what's the first thing I reach for? And honestly, for me, it's my phone and I pretend it's productive because I'm gonna check LinkedIn, which is work, or I'm gonna watch the news, which also seems productive because I need to know what's going on. Or I check the labor market.
ion, do my coping strategies [:What's one small moment of aliveness I've noticed lately? Go to my website, career bloom coaching.com/episode six eight and you can download this worksheet for free. And honestly, this is brave. Listening to this episode, you'll maybe downloading the worksheet and thinking about a question or two or start journaling is brave. And don't expect yourself to have this perfect linear journey towards a aliveness. It doesn't work like that as much as I wish I could tell you how it doesn't work.
It simply means we're human [:One aligned with your values, your energy, your voice, and your truth. So now that we've walked that path from numbness to aliveness together, let's talk about what's possible. What is possible on the other side.
All right, so far in this episode, we walked through the ache. We named the cost of numbing, and then we talked about stepping into the mess of facing reality. We practice honesty, presence, and micro shifts, but what happens next? What's actually on this other side of vulnerability? Discomfort, and those courageous first steps.
iving the fairytale. This is [:She still argues with her husband. She still has disagreements with managers. And she still has hard days, but the big thing that changed is that she's living this more integrity with herself now, and that changes everything. One of the very beautiful habits that she developed was starting the day without phones.
th my kids are at school and [:Sarah also developed a practice of checking in with her before she starts her work of putting her hand on her heart and asking herself, how am I, how am I really doing? Is there something that my body or my mind needs to start this day? Those practices have helped her to really calm and lower the volume on the racing thoughts that she was so used to struggling with every morning, and it allows her to be more present.
er to her, , and she gets to [:She does not accept or schedule meetings before 9:00 AM and she doesn't even feel guilty for doing it. She feels aligned when she protects her energy. She doesn't always work less because she tends to be a workaholic like myself, but the work feels different now. Her work is really fueled by passionate, by purpose, and she doesn't do her work based on fear and obligation anymore.
ices. The people in her life [:She's more available, she's more present, and they can better connect with her. And it's not just her who really experienced that change, but all the people around her as well. See it in her. And her body seems to be doing much better too. She has much less migraines. She sleeps better. She still keeps up her morning walks and as she feels in her body, instead of being at war with it, she feels connected to purpose.
xiety and stress she used to [:But no, this didn't happen all at once. I have known Sarah for the last four years, and that was a gradual evolution and that new version of her really was built by tiny, small break by tiny, small break.
One truth spoken, one email left answered after 7:00 PM one walk instead of scrolling on her phone and one deep breath before reacting automatically. And each of these small steps had chipped away a tiny bit of the facade that she had built.
And over time, her new habits started replacing the old ones. And her change came so much more through consistency and less about the intensity of any one single step she took. And the people on her team, they love working for her. As you can imagine, she's an amazing leader.
She leads with empathy. She [:And she truly became a mirror for what's possible, not by giving advice, but by living aligned in order to make this change in your life, you do not have to quit your job tomorrow. You do not have to blow up your life. You don't need the picture.
we really are on the inside.[:I invite you to download the worksheet that I'm gonna make available with this episode, and there's gonna be reflection questions for you that include, what does a life feel like in my body? What's one place in my life where I crave more presence?
What's one small change I could make just 3% toward the version of me I want to become. And what would it look like to live soul success instead of paper success?
e, and you'll slowly see the [:. So let's come full circle here. This whole conversation has been about this paradox that numbing looks safe. Slowly drains the color from your life. And on the other hand, the vulnerability that looks so dangerous, but is truly the only way to feel alive. Numbing feels like surviving versus vulnerability feels like thriving.
One keeps you floating and the other brings you home to yourself. And coming home to yourself is truly my biggest wish for all of you. So if you're feeling the ache right now, that quiet ache of misalignment, emptiness, not quiet, being where you truly want to be. There is nothing wrong with you. You are human.
part of you that's ready to [:And those feelings that we really dislike so strongly, and I, I'm the first one to admit that I do not enjoy sitting in those feelings of sadness and shame and grief and loneliness. But those are the feelings that actually are the cues and the clues. They're the doorway to joy, to purpose, to connection, and to meaning.
verhaul your life overnight, [:And there's one question I want to leave you with for today. What is one small way you could choose reality over numbing this week? What is a small but realistic step you can take? Would it be to put your phone away instead of reaching for it automatically? Is it to say how you truly feel to someone you trust, even if you're not feeling okay?
Is it sitting with a feeling for 90 seconds instead of pushing it away, or is it journaling? The question, what am I pretending not to know? Whatever it is, let it be small, doable, and honest, because one small act of truth can change the trajectory of your entire week and over time your entire life.
And if you're [:If this episode spoke to you and you're ready to explore what's next, professionally and ready to find something that is more aligned with who you truly are, I'd love to help. I offer free consultation calls for women who are ready to trade paper success for soul success. And you don't have to figure it out all alone.
's really going on and start [:Thank you so much for being with me here today. Thank you for listening with your heart, and thank you for being brave enough to explore this topic with me to conversations really matter because you matter. And if you end up trying one small shift this week, if you end up downloading the workbook and answering those questions, I'd love to hear about it.
hts, inspiration, and action [:She has nearly 1 million YouTube subscribers and over 2.6 million LinkedIn learning students in growing communities on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Retina. And she truly lived that transition from Paper Success to Soul Success, and you do not want to mishearing her story. So keep chasing what makes you come alive and I'll see you back here next week on Career Clarity Unlocked.
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